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Other Encouraging Signs with Dementia

I was awake because of back pain last night.  I happened to hear Mom or the aid talking so I got up and went downstairs.  Most of the time when I enter the scene in the middle of the night it is to try and help with Mom.  Last night was very, very different.

We have been using a new sleep aid to allow and help her get 6-8 hours of rest a night.  It makes the following day much easier.  After six hours last night, she awoke but was calm and reasonably lucid.  When I approached her bed she reached out to me and smiled.  She was having trouble talking, and I finally realized she needed a drink of water.  After the water, she was able to talk more clearly.

I sat and talked and smiled and talked and chatted for about 40 minutes.  Mom was relaxed and happy at 2 AM.  I thoroughly enjoyed our time last night.  I told her to go back to sleep, and she said she really wanted.  We decided to give her another sleep aid.  I talked to her about it and remembered that at times in the past she had realized that she was causing someone else to stay awake to care for her and would settle down and send them to rest in the recliner in her room.  So, I fibbed.  I told her the pill was to help me sleep :).  After a few minutes she swallowed the pill, and we talked a bit more.  We turned all the lights off and I told Mom to go back to sleep; she did.

I share this because after I went to bed and decided to write this post, I thought about other times when there have been those encouraging moments or minutes or possibly an hour.  some of the encouraging spiritual moments were in the previous post, but those would fit here as well.  I will not review those.

One of the lessons in life I have learned is that I (we) are never in control!  We like to think, act like, and believe we are in control of much of what goes on in our lives.  However, that is simply not the case, not the reality.  When Gini was sick years ago and the recovery was taxing on both of us, I lived in the reality that My God, My Father was in control of every moment of every day.  Without that certainty, I am not sure how I could have survived.  In fact, I do not know how an unbeliever or an atheist for that matter resolves such circumstances that are obviously beyond human control.

So, I share last night’s experience so that you will expect to have those moments when the personality returns for a short time and caregiving is a delight.  I know for some those times will not come and for others they will happen more frequently.  I pray you will know some events like I shared with my Mom last night.

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What a Family Restoration Can Look Like–From a Friend Part 2

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What a Family Restoration Can Look Like–From a Friend Part 1

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Relationships: their Presence, Power, and Potential

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Other Encouraging Signs with Dementia

I was awake because of back pain last night.  I happened to hear Mom or the aid talking so I got up and went downstairs.  Most of the time when I enter the scene in the middle of the night it is to try and help with Mom.  Last night was very, very different. We… Read More