Category Archives: Family

What Happened to the Men? #1

Have you ever wondered what is happening in our society? Those of my generation, baby boomers, ask this question quite often. Well, one of the pivotal factors that has changed and allowed unwanted change in our nation and society is loss of the central place a husband and father had in the family for the first 173 years of this nation–1787-1960, arbitrary dating I know.
For those first 173 years, a man was expected to provide for, protect, and LEAD his family by his words, his example, and his position. In the 1960’s, the first widespread attack on the place of men in the home began with the ultra-feminist movement that proved to be a false premise. One feminist leader stated, “I have become the man I always wanted” or something very close to that. Now she is married; figure that one out.

After approximately 20 years of that false narrative, men began to rebel against this lie and walk away from responsibilities for the family seeking greener pastures. While this is exactly what the feminists wanted, they threw a collective fit and raised their voices higher and even a stronger male reaction took place.  I must admit that men did not react in a positive manner to say the least. In the late to mid 1990’s, there was a call from the pulpit in particular but also in the world of psychology for men to return to the place of leadership and commitment to the family.  The feminists railed against this movement they helped create and began in the 1990’s to call it patriarchy. American music often reflects society much better than contemporary television programming. Whether Rap, Hip Hop, Country, and almost all other genres, the total deletion and degradation of marriage, men as leaders in the home, or seeing women as equal and therefore deserving little respect or consideration is evident.

This weekend as I was doing some cleaning for Gini, my Mother’s Day gift to her. I noticed this family picture below from 2002 taken on the hill behind my parents house. I think this is the first time I have thought of this photo in this regard. Anytime we have a “formal” family photo taken, we take one that we think will be fun to break up the necessity to get it right.
MEN, notice how the family gathered around me and is “hanging on.” This is a picture of our RESPONSIBILITY before God to our family. Men, God has called us to be an anchor, a source of strength, a steady hand on the wheel of the ship of our family. There are days when I don’t think I did a very good job of fulfilling God’s plan and command. It is still OUR responsibility.
Steve Farrar has written several books for men that would certainly help you understand God’s plan and if he doesn’t do this in your opinion, I will buy the book from you.
“Anchor Man”
“Point Man”
“Standing Tall”
I don’t know how many he has written but I have read close to ten of them. Some of the best words for men you can find today.

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Caregiver Burnout: A Quick Look

If you are reading our articles, you see two related to our experiences with protracted illness.  My third installment of that series will address my struggle with caregiver burnout.  I decided to post on the blog a description of caregiver burnout and some of the steps to mitigate its effects on the caregiver. Caregiver burnout… Continue Reading

What a Family Restoration Can Look Like–From a Friend Part 2

Pride goes before the fall First, we could not agree on how to establish the value of the property.  There was the county value, which my brother said was way too high.  So, we said let’s get the property appraised.   He was not in favor of getting it appraised but stalled again at determining a… Continue Reading

What a Family Restoration Can Look Like–From a Friend Part 1

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you”. Paul’s words to the church…Ephesus 4:31-32 A Testimony of God’s Patience, Grace, and Mercy:  By Randy Sharp What comes to mind when… Continue Reading

Relationships: their Presence, Power, and Potential

Relationships surround us and they are vital to each of us on many levels–business, family, recreation, friendship, marriage, and acquaintances.  Each relationship contributes to our lives either in a positive or negative way.  Often a relationship contributes both positively and negatively to our lives.  Because we are human and humans need relationships, the vast majority… Continue Reading

Marriage: Why It Matters; Part 2

Honestly, I am both surprised and disappointed by the two decisions regarding marriage that the Supreme Court delivered last week.  [Originally posted in 2013]Regarding Proposition 8 in California, my oldest son tells me that the Court did not overturn Prop 8 but declared that citizens of California did not have the standing before the court… Continue Reading

Marriage: why it matters.

Marriage matters!  I have wanted to post my thoughts about marriage, traditional marriage in particular, for some time but the plethora of thoughts seemed overwhelming.  However, last week, it became crystal clear what I needed and wanted to say. As the marriage/anti-marriage/new marriage/or whatever has progressed in recent years, I have reacted strongly because I… Continue Reading

Seven Benefits of a Smile: Ken Sande RW360

My daughter, Megan, was eighteen months old when she decided to test her smile on a Hell’s Angel. Just before a vacation in Jackson, Wyoming, she had learned what a fun response she could get from adults when she beamed a big smile and gave them an enthusiastic, “Hi!” Whether we were sitting in a… Read More