Category Archives: God’s Grace

In Darkness There is Light: Moments of Encouragement

With all that happens with the elderly when dementia is involved, there are often rays of hope and encouragement.  One day as Mom’s mind was wandering through time, I asked her a question just to see what she would say.  Now a little context is in order.  I had in mind a particular answer to the question, so Mom’s response surprised me somewhat.  So I asked her, “who is your favorite person?”  I expected Mom to say Karen or K-k as she is known most of the time.  Our first cousin at the age of 2 could not vocalize Karen so he shortened her name to K-k.  At any rate, Mom responded without hesitation and with a tone saying I should have known her answer, “Jesus.”  I said, “Mom, I was thinking about someone who is here with us now.”  She responded, “Jesus.”  I said, “okay,” and we moved on in a random conversation.

A few days ago as she was waking, she indicated she wanted to do something.  In her early stage of wakefulness, I asked her what she wanted to do.  She replied in her now halting, raspy voice, “I want to walk in the ways of righteousness.”  I said, “Well, you have do so for quite a long time now.”

On another occasion, Mom and I were talking randomly, and she was preparing to go somewhere.  I asked her, “where are you going?”  Mom replied, “I am going home.”  I said, “We are home in your house.”  She said, “To our real home, heaven.”  I merely responded, “Okay.”

The darkness of dementia only serves to highlight the bright moments when the Holy Spirit is communing with the afflicted person.  In each of the moments sited above, I was surprised at my Mother’s response given the nature of our current conversation.  I was pleasantly surprised.

The Child Becomes the Parent: A New and Difficult Chapter

My sister, my wife, and I have been providing somewhat intensive care for my Mother this year, 2017.  I told my sister in 2014 that I realized that Mom was emotionally dependent on her which has not been too difficult to address until this year.  My sister said that Mom has been in steady decline… Continue Reading

Caregiver Burnout: A Quick Look

If you are reading our articles, you see two related to our experiences with protracted illness.  My third installment of that series will address my struggle with caregiver burnout.  I decided to post on the blog a description of caregiver burnout and some of the steps to mitigate its effects on the caregiver. Caregiver burnout… Continue Reading

What a Family Restoration Can Look Like–From a Friend Part 2

Pride goes before the fall First, we could not agree on how to establish the value of the property.  There was the county value, which my brother said was way too high.  So, we said let’s get the property appraised.   He was not in favor of getting it appraised but stalled again at determining a… Continue Reading

Other Encouraging Signs with Dementia

I was awake because of back pain last night.  I happened to hear Mom or the aid talking so I got up and went downstairs.  Most of the time when I enter the scene in the middle of the night it is to try and help with Mom.  Last night was very, very different. We… Read More