Marriage does matter. It matters a great deal but for some very different reasons than most think today. Many in today’s Western culture think, believe, and declare that it is about “rights.” Now let me see, does the Constitution of the United States declare a right to marriage? I have done some research on ancient cultures and have studied several ancient, middle eastern cultures on the graduate level. I have not been able to find a resource that declared marriage as a right (civil that is), however, most of the ancient cultures recognized marriage as a religious expression. In the cultures I studies while in graduate school, I don’t recall any reference in official documents about marriage other than those that might be considered political marriages–between ruling families or the like.
You see, marriage is a part of the natural order. It truly does not matter whether you view the natural order from a religious or a scientific position; marriage either was established or evolved to maintain the human race and society in general. The natural bonding that occurs or should occur between parents and children dates back to some place far beyond our records–unless you hold a religious view. It is in part because of the need to raise and protect children that marriage became the strong institution it is. It also plays a vital role in a stable society. 1) It is the first social training ground for children to grow and mature; 2) It helps define for children that there is a structure and order in society; 3) It should be the first learning environment, and it is whether we plan it so or not; 4) It is or has been the protected haven for children.
I know I am spitting in the wind and “pull(ing) on Superman’s cape” but marriage is not a right; it is a necessity! Why is that so hard to grasp? Ancient kings recognized the need for marriage to increase the population of those over whom they ruled. A king’s greatness was measured by the numbers of people over whom he ruled, so children were important on the political scale. Another reason that children are so important and that marriage is the accepted place for them is that a family can survive better together than one person can alone. The ancient proverbs express this, so why is it so hard to understand that marriage is a societal necessity, not a choice or a right to be demanded?
If any of you are true environmentalists, then I don’t understand why you are not promoting marriage and family at every venue you have. Statistically, it is cheaper and uses fewer resources to maintain a family than it does an individual,that is, per person cost is less. In other words, if a family lives together and purchases most of its maintenance resources together, then compared to two or three individuals living together purchasing the resources each of them need and only sharing a limited percentage of those resources, then more is needed to sustain their lifestyle as singles whatever that may be. Let’s consider it another way. If it takes x amount of resources to sustain one person, it does not necessarily take 2x, twice as much to sustain a family unit of two (or three or ten). Because of the bond between the members, families share resources. Individuals tend to want their own resources exclusively. Yes, I admit that individuals can share some resources, but that is not our tendency in Western society now is it?
Marriage matters; it is vital to society; it is not a right.