A few years ago after Gini’s bout with Cushing’s, I came to a realization that surprisingly I had not noted before. That God in all His spender, majesty, and glory wanted us to see Him as our father. I realize that many today do not have a father in their lives because of untimely death, divorce, abandonment, and other reasons. I also am aware that many fathers today do not fulfill their roll very well either. Even with these negative influences in our lives, God wants to be and is our Father, even the father we never had.
Since this realization came over many years of experience with God the Father, I will not give much background in this post, but share the outcome. I will however write an article about seeing God as Father and give all the details of my growing understanding of this vital concept.
Let me begin by stating that this concept has become a central part of my, our, counseling, teaching, educating others, and so forth. When someone is hurting almost beyond words, our words often times are meaningless. I learned this while visiting grieving families in hospitals. Either they had lost a loved one or the one we watched over was dying and would likely expire shortly. In either case, the weight of saying the right thing or knowing what to say can be quite heavy. I remember when I first became aware that my words to those grieving were worthless. At that point in my ministry, I began to simply ask the family and sometimes the one lying in the hospital bed if I could just pray for them. I have yet to be told no when I make this request.
So, seeing God as Father takes some imagination and some faith. As for faith, God declares He is Father, a Father, and the Father. I want to focus on God as a Father . . . to you. In multiple places in the Bible, we see believers in both the Old and New Testament addressing God in a very personal manner. If you study these instances, you will notice a pattern. Each one of them, male or female, expresses the deepest, most intimate, and most honest feelings. Those feelings range from frustration to anger to doubt to complete surrender. I suppose if I studied each of these one more time, I should find that the entire range of human emotion is found in the interactions between God the Father and His children. Now, I want you to think, hear what I am about to say, and truly envision this as your relationship with God the Father.
When we are overwhelmed, crushed by grief, overcome with worry, broken by the weight of responsibility, God is inviting you to come to Him. See him as that loving, bigger than life grandfather sitting in his favorite chair inviting you to come sit in his lap. As a father, God is exactly that Father you need when life overwhelms you. He is inviting you not simply waiting for you to finally in desperation come to Him; he is inviting you to come get in His lap of love. I truly with all my heart believe that He is saying, “Child (your name), come here, sit in my lap, tell me all about it.” The “all” is whatever is troubling you at the time; it is your deepest hurts, your deepest frustrations, your greatest anger. You can and should tell Him absolutely anything that is on your heart and in your mind. The believers in both Testaments did that and set an example for us to follow as you grow in our knowledge and relationship to God.
I know this might seem strange at first. Please, please, make an attempt the next time you stop to fret over your problems. Rather than fret, turn to God your Father and tell Him anything and everything that is on your mind at the moment. He won’t turn you away if you are angry or if you shout at Him or demand action or answers from Him. I know; I have done this many times.